Erotic Fridays *Make Sex Fun Again* Does your Partner Know What You REALLY Like? Don't Settle For Less...
I mean, come on, let's face it. Many of us have settled in the bedroom a few times or another. Depends on how many serious relationships you've had. I ain't talking about no little fling. You usually don't settle when dealing with a fling because I mean.... flings are usually just about sex and aren't forever, right? I wouldn't know. But. What I'm trying to say is when people get into relationships they settle so hard in the bedroom and that shit just ain't fair. People really be thinking that the bedroom satisfaction is not as important as the satisfaction in the entire relationship. People forget, when you first seen your spouse or first liked them... most of the time there was some type of attraction there. I bet there were sparks flying and all. Those sparks and that feeling that you get right in between your legs when you were around your spouse at first. Yeah, you know exactly what feeling what I'm talking about. All of these feelings, on top of your spouse being the amazing person they are, made you fall for them. So, why do people start being lazy in the bedroom I have no idea.
Sex should be talked about pretty early on in a relationship. You need to know what that person likes and doesn't like. Honestly. Some people downplay the type of sex they like to have and the types of things they like. Don't do that. And, it's not too late to share with your spouse your wildest fantasies. As you get older, the things you like may change. The things you want to try, may change. It is very important to keep your partner up to date with the things you want and don't want. They should be willing to try new things with you and compromise. Because, sexual pleasure is very important in relationships. So, make sure they know what you want. And they should be interested in the things you want because that means they are interested in you.
It is also important to make sure that you keep them informed about the things you don't want or even don't like anymore.
Like for me, I used to want to have a threesome with my man. People have threesomes for all sorts of reasons, but for me, it was really and mainly because I find women attractive and I wanted to enjoy another woman with my man on the side of me. I wanted to feel, powerful in a sense by pleasing another woman. Because I am a woman, and I know what I like, I would know exactly what another woman would like. That's something I used to want. I don't desire to have threesomes anymore as I've gotten older. So, that's something worth sharing with my man. Because in his mind, he could think I still want that, but I don't. Be open and honest with your partner. If you don't want it or don't like it say that. If you do want it or like it, say that. Don't lie about it.
When your partner knows what you really want, the sexual tension and the sexual pleasure is always on ten. Why? Because, you are not there simply for the pleasure of THEM, but you are there for your pleasure as well. It should bring your partner JOY to do things to you and with you that you like and find sexy. Something that I really enjoy is spontaneity and foreplay. I absolutely love not knowing when sex is going to take place. I also love foreplay. I love the workup to the actual act of sex. People tend to forget about the workup and that is one of the biggest mistakes you can make in a relationship. Not having that workup, can lead to needs not being met and desires not being fulfilled. Make sure you are on your toes when it comes to your partner. Don't settle for less in the bedroom. Be vocal. If you're missing something you need, don't wait until you feel the urge to get it from somewhere else. Tell your man! Tell your woman! It's ok to make them feel a little bit "embarrassed" by saying, check this out. You're not doing this and I would appreciate it if we could start doing that. Because if you're doing your job for them, they need to do their job for you.
So, your homework tonight is to sit and talk with your spouse and touch base on the bedroom desires. See if things have changed.
Then, get some hot oil, ice, and dim the lights. Blind fold him, put the ice in your mouth, and run it all over his body. Then, take the warm oil, and massage his entire body. Lastly, you know what to do ;) that's right!
Then, roll over and go to bed. Mess his whole world up tonight, sis. ;)
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