understanding your partners love language + being romantically in tune with each other

Good Evening <3 
Please, grab your wine, your tea, or your feel good drink and read on. 
Tonight will be short and sweet. I just want to talk a little bit about relationships and love language. Most people are not on the same level of romance in a relationship and sometimes things can get really difficult & stressful when that is the case. I have witnessed first hand that when relationships don't have a level of romantic involvement they can be ruined. You may think that the option to be romantic or not shouldn't ruin a relationship, but in all reality, being romantic and having someone to be romantic with is actually a love language. I want someone to be romantic and spontaneous to show that they care. Simple. You cannot love someone the way you want to love them, you love someone the way they want to be loved and in return they will do the same for you. I heard someone once say "You cannot focus on what your partner is doing for YOU. You focus on what you are doing for your partner. You focus on the way you're loving your partner." If you're doing the right things and they're doing the right things then what does that mean? It means a successful relationship. When you first meet someone, you learn a lot about them if you pay close attention. If you watch their body language, if you study the way they think, if you WATCH them, you will learn a lot. A lot of the time, people don't watch. They are so dead set on falling in love and making sure they look good the next time they meet or worrying about what the date will be like or literally focusing on every word that comes out of their mouth to make sure they don't say something wrong, that they forget to watch the other person. I am a woman who loves to be studied. I want my man to study me. I want him to know what makes me squirm, I want him to know the exact place to touch me, I want him to know when I am upset and I want him to know how to please me and make it all better. I want him to know ME. The problem with most people is that the studying part is too complicated. It involves too much time or whatever the case may be. You have to understand that people are meant to be studied. This is why I love Psychology so much because the mind is a powerful thing. Understanding the way someone thinks understanding the way someone wants to be loved is POWERFUL. Once you understand someone, I mean the hold you have on them is real. I don't say that in a way to make it seem like its good to have a "hold" on someone, but when you're taking your time out to study your partner, when you're taking the time out to watch the way they move and their body language and you being to learn when their mad, sad, when they need space, when they need love, when they need, to make love, I mean that says a lot about the way care for that person. Know how to love them. I know exactly what it is that makes feel good only then will you master the art of understanding your partner. So next time you're with your partner, no matter how long you two have been together, study them. Study the way they talk study the way their voice changes within the conversation. Maybe they're discussing a topic that makes them feel a certain way. Watch their body language and the way they move. They may need a really good massage to relax that tension. Study them.

​Romance is also very important and so is spontaneity because it keeps the fire going in the relationship and it makes that other person feel like you're still thinking about them even in your busy day. 

So ladies, do something sweet for your man. Rose petals in a warm bath with candles or a 4 course meal with a nice back and foot rub. Whatever it is you know your man loves, but maybe you don't do so much anymore, do that. Men get your woman some flowers and watch the kids so she can take a hot shower and actually get to shave her legs in peace. Cook for her and do the dishes. Small but sweet things mean the world of a difference. Often times we get so wrapped up in our day to day lives and kids that we forget to love each other. 
Love one another ya'll, life is too short.