We need our Men in the Home, too. | Happy Spouse Happy House, not Happy Wife Happy Life.

It is not happy wife happy life in my world. It's happy spouse happy house! My man's happiness is just as important as mine and he is needed in this home just as much as I am, if not more. Lately, on social media, or in my case YouTube because I ridded my life of socials, I've been seeing so many things that go against the natural flow of things. I won't get into anything too controversial, but I will say that it seems to me like the world wants women to believe that they can do it all without a man. You don't need a man in the home. You can raise these kids yourself. Or if you do have a man,  "leave him sis, you don't need him. We women we run the world!". Yeah, all that nonsense. Let me tell you something, we do in fact NEED our men. When I say need, I don't mean as in you become solely dependent on him. I mean, we need our men in our homes and we need them in our lives. This society today tells us we don't need them. I've seen women literally get pregnant and not even want the relationship when the baby is born just to brag and say she's doing it all on her own. Why? What makes anyone believe that it is cool to do it on their own? Granted, some people do walk away from their families, but this is not something just men do. Women do it, too. But I'll save that one for another day. We live in a society that praises single people, but most certainly single women. If you want to be single because that is what you want for your life, that is OK! By all means, do you! I am no one to judge. However, if you think that BEING SINGLE will be better because you are following a trend or are curious about what it's like to not have a man around, you are doing something wrong. There is a reason men and women are different. That is because we work, together. When you have a real man in your home, one who does his job properly and not half ass, trust me baby, you need him. Homes work better with both. They just do. The nurturing spirit of the woman, the wisdom of the woman, the calm spirit of the woman, the emotional spirit of a woman. The strength of the man, the authority of the man, the logic he brings to the table when we are having mood swings and acting on our emotions, the pleasure he brings his woman in many ways and the security and protection. All of those things are so important. That man being in the home helps the children more than you know. If you were a single mother, are a single mother, this is in no way a gut punch to you. I am just speaking from my experience. What it is like when a man is in the home and actively playing his part. Making sure the kids are in line and have respect, making sure there is order in the home and not chaos. You can say what you want, but kids have lots of respect for that manly figure. They are more prone to listening and obeying when a man is present. This may not be the case for your life, but from what I've seen in my experience in being in homes where a man is around, there is more order and less chaos. There's nothing like seeing order in a home that a man can create just by his presence. Not even having to yell because the kids already know what's up. There's nothing like a man coming home from a day at work, and he's happy to be there because he knows he's going to be treated like a king once he's home. The weight of the world can come off at the door because his queen is there to make it all worth it. There's nothing like a man being gentle with his woman, but also providing that protection that she is seeking. There's nothing like that man pleasing his woman so that she feels loved and appreciated for all the hard work she also puts into the home. There's nothing like that woman pleasing her man so that he knows he's appreciated and loved for everything he brings to the table. There is an undeniable, indescribable, unspoken, real love and bond when a MAN AND WOMAN are both working together in their home to keep it happy and healthy. Not just for the children, but for themselves also. Please, take the time to tell your man today that you love him. That you appreciate him for everything he does. Notice I said man, not little boy. If you're dealing with a "man" who isn't a man, I am sorry. I'll make a separate post on the differences between a boy and a man, because I've had both! And for the sake of different relationships, let's just say you guys aren't together. Don't live together for whatever reason, but he is doing his best to be a great father and not disturbing your peace, thank him for that. Thank him for trying his best. Sometimes we need to just thank these men for the things they do and stop singling out everything that they aren't doing. If you know the man in your life is doing his best, thank him right now. We all need love and encouragement. There's this thing that makes people believe that if a woman isn't happy then it's the end of the world. That may be the case, but what if the man isn't happy and doesn't feel respected? He's supposed to just take it? I think not! Make sure that man is happy, sis! I bet you if you're doing your part, if he is a real man, he will do his, too! <3

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